What kind of relationships do people who are insane have?

“The noblest pleasure is the joy of understanding.” Leonardo da Vinci
How do you tell if someone online may have issues? Okay, the obvious way is in communication…and it takes a lot of it. After a few weeks of talking to someone through emails or IM’s, you should be able to determine more about [...]

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the breakdown of a relationship between a neurotypical and an aspie

this was something i wrote 4-5 years ago, when i had just discovered i had asperger’s. i’d come out, disastrously, of a year long relationship, and then a year of not broken up-enough, when the entire relationship, despite the talents and what i have to offer in me, and her understanding and love, our [...]

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having a healthy sense of boundaries

something i’m currently researching. this is one of those google searches where you find yourself wading thru a lot of “embrace the child inside” sites that, if you’re me, you want to immediately skip over. here are sites i found that were readable:
Building Healthy Boundaries
Personal Boundaries and Healthy Relationships
Setting Healthy Work-Life Boundaries
do people [...]

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sex a cure for ocd (and does having an orgasm make you less of an aspie?)

pretty funny post over at bigsockgrrrl where she references a study… oh hell, just go read it, basically correlations between autism, oxytocin, ocd, orgasms, being obsessed about a new crush as compared to perseverating, etc. i don’t see the post as being intended to be scientific or widely drawn out or anything, just [...]

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what to do when your friend has cancer

this is a new thing for me to be researching, and i’m really not liking that i’m researching it, because it concerns someone i know and like.
supporting a friend who has cancer
Here are some simple guidelines to use when talking with your friend.

Avoid saying
I know just how you feel.
You need to talk.
I know just what [...]

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unable to understand without visualizing

i’ve been thinking about how i have a hard time contending with anything unless i can get a visual picture of it in my head first.
unexplained new circumstances, i completely freak out, tense up in my head. it’s like walking on a high wire line, dangling above certain catastrophe, me rapidly assimilating as much [...]

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what kind of gifts do you give to someone with asperger’s syndrome?

i don’t like being given gifts. i don’t like… crap, basically, that takes up space. my mind is very utilitarian, needs white space, for every element around it to be completely functional. i don’t like useless elements, i like everything clean and spare. also, i am extremely particular, and it [...]

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about asperger’s syndrome, in plain english

i was having a harder time than normal functioning on saturday, and hung out with a friend despite this fact. having a hard time navigating in my head choices regarding what to do, planning, i was breaking down, cuz i was really tired. we had a bit of an impasse resulting from this, [...]

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asperger’s syndrome and long-term relationships

a year after i’d bought the curious incident of the dog in the nighttime book, i found myself, having moved to boston after breaking up for good with my girlfriend (we’d actually broken up a year and a half before, but we still lived together for quite a while, and it took us a while [...]

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